Monday, November 25, 2013


In the past few weeks, I've realized I can handle an enormous amount of both good and awful things in my life...I guess that's one good aspect.

Latest Updates

Okay...many of you know that Thaddeus and I, after 30 years of being together have gotten legally married.  We've always said that once a marriage would be recognized federally, we'd get married...our 30th year anniversary seemed like a perfect date for it.  Now we just have to wait for our home State of Pennsylvania to recognize our marriage.

About a week before this happened, I bashed in the front of my car by hitting the guy in front of me up in Scotia, New York.  Arranging for repairs up there, a rental car and the simple logistics of transferring everything from my disabled car to a rental was somewhat overwhelming.

Last week, I had to say goodbye (again) to an amazing network of friends I have in Upstate New York as I will no longer be traveling up there each week...I'll be working from home.  Dinner at Aaron and Michael's with all their wonderful dogs was a great way of saying goodbye.

I also had to say goodbye to a group of co-workers who I've grown to love.  Again, just the logistics of packing up my office and jamming it all into a rental car...only to have to transfer it to my newly repaired car was more than I wanted to handle.

During all this, we've been dealing with a sick little kitty.  Nico hasn't been himself for a couple of weeks, and after a number of different tests at the vet, we've found out his stomach is now made up mostly of lymphoma cells and it's not likely he'll make it past the end of the year.

You can imagine how heartbroken Thaddeus and I are.  Suffice it to say, I'm extremely glad that I'm working from home and can lavish him with all the love he's willing to take.

So, if I'm a little less on-line than usual, just know I'm putting my time to good use.

Current Knitting

Nico has grown to love laying on the kid alpaca blanket, so I've been working on it with the completed part of the blanket on my lap, so he can lay on it (and my lap).  Truth be told, it's the only comfort I'm finding in knitting at the moment.

Monday, November 11, 2013

Ask A Gay Guy Anything

Years ago, when social media was limited to IRC chat and AOL chat rooms, I used to create a chat room called "Ask A Gay Guy Anything."

Where Anonymity Is Involved

Since the internet added an aspect of anonymity that wasn't as readily available, it was amazing the number of people that wanted to ask me things.

The most frequent question came from both men and women and it was always some version of "Does it hurt?"  Or "How do you do it so it doesn't hurt?"  I'm assuming y'all know what "it" is.  And while it's difficult to assess, the second most common question was some version of "Are you available?"  The chat room title seemed to encourage people to proposition me often.

Google has pretty much eliminated the need for having this kind of forum.  Well, at least for the folks who had valid questions...the flirtatious part has been eliminated by other applications.

Current Knitting/Crocheting

I had a challenging week last week, as anyone who follows me on Facebook may already know, so there was very little fiber work being done.  Here's my progress on my one active project.

So, I've finished 23 granny squares.  I'm starting to wonder how many squares I need for a decent size afghan, and whether I should purchase any additional yarn for it, or just use up scraps.  I guess the decision comes down to whether I'm more interested in how it looks in the end, or whether it really is just a scrappy little project.